The situation you describe is the perfect time for the two of you to go to a Retrouvaille weekend. They will help you to understand both your feelings and your wife's. Check out the website, www.helpourmarriage.org for information on locations and dates of weekends. You are in the "misery" stage of marriage, and it makes sense that you would not want to commit to that. But you can move on the the fourth and best stage of marriage if you are shown how to repair the problems with understanding that you have built up within the marriage. This is what Retrouvaille does, and they are very successful at it. There's a thread in Piecing called "Retrouvaille means change" if you want more information.
