I never did move out. A couple times, my W said I had to go or she would, but I didn't. I moved to a room in the house and stayed there. Why?
- Moving out says I'm hopeless. - Moving out means seeing you is too painful. - Moving out means that the kids are involved. - Moving out costs money; I'd rather use it to give the M a chance - etc, etc.
Why should I have left? - Everyone thinks I should have moved out - I can't completely imagine life without her while she's there - I can miss her, but I/she might end off resenting decisions made, movies watched, etc. - W felt that I was having a good time when she was watching the kids - I didn't practise with any of the stresses of being a single, divorced parent.
Still, I'm happy to have stayed. Your H might have many reasons to leave, social pressure being one of them.
Did you ask him why he felt it was so important to leave right away? Did you let him feel comfortable staying in a room privately to sort out thoughts?
My MC reminded me that as a Canadian, we value independence. Maybe he just needs some time to stretch - as long as he doesn't get into any EA or PA situations...? Why not ask him what he wants?
