H suddenly moved out 10 days ago...I'm devastated

[newmama]

Hi, Flowmom, I just read your thread in its entirety. I totally get why you feel you are not able to just get up and GAL all of a sudden! Citygirl is giving great advice...but it takes us all awhile to get there. I think we want the newbies to not waste time and to get started! People encouraged me here and I did.

Now I see WH almost daily as he takes care of our 6 month old S and relieves me. I USED to hang around the house and him when he is here. Over the last 6 months I:
1)make sure I wear make up and do my hair, dress nice (not in PJs)

2)clean and cook (didn't do much of either before)

3)joined a couple of classes at the local park and recc department (cheap and the classes are only an hour long so I can go and come back in the 2.5 hours that he is here)

4)joined some meetup groups on meetup.com

5) Have been steadily losing pregnancy weight

6)stay in positive, good spirits (although I used to worry that he will think I am just accepting the situation but I told him back in November that I do not want a divorce and he hasn't brought it up since)

Now leaving the house when WH is here has been hard for a couple of reasons. One being that I didn't have a place to go but now I have classes or I go watch a movie. (Again, the classes cost less than 40 bucks each and are 8-9 weeks long)

We drew up a parenting plan using the free documents and professional advice for what is best for kids from our local county court's website. We also drew up financial support using the childsupport calculator for our state online.

If it comes to D, we are DIY and using a mediator to save money.
I know you live in Canada but I hear it is a great country so I bet they have these free resources as well!

So I am just giving my 2 cents to NOT go out to that jazz bar alone with the married man! You can invite his wife, how about that? On the other hand, I am suspicious of his intentions if he is married and asked you to go! This is how it all starts, folks...