I don't expect God to come down and give my wife a stern talking to and let her know that she needs to shape up and work on her marriage - everyone would be foolish to think this, God has given you the tools you just need to discover those abilities and do what you can with them.
Here is one thing for sure and I'll say it a million times if I haven't already: YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO LET GO OF THE PEOPLE THAT DON'T VALUE YOU or the relationship they have with you. If you don't, you validate in their eyes that you are low value and that they were making the right decision when they started taking you for granted, hurting you, leaving you, cheating on you, etc. It is only when you let go of these people and move on with your life (detach, drop the rope, move on, GAL, etc.) that they realize what they HAD. You never know what you had until you don't have it and it's that point that a WAS will learn if their decision was the right one.
Fear of loss, crisis, these are things that motivate a person to action. Being super nice to and kissing the ass of a WAS that is in an affair (and everything that goes with that mindset) will usually repel the WAS even further.
Damn straight! All if it!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
