Amen S4H. I did find out about SG's infidelity. Now, I found out immediately. But it did not make things easier.
For the first year, I cried, begged, and pleaded with him not to date anyone. It was insane. And then I finally figured out that I couldn't do anything to stop him. This was only making things worse.
His infidelity was his fault. But the things leading up to it were done by the both of us. All I could do was recognize my own part in it, and make the changes. I realized I needed to make them for my own sanity first and foremost, because it was not who I wanted to be.
You need to work on yourself. None of us are perfect. Regardless of whether or not the affair is a dealbreaker, listen to what your W says. It will help you to recognize certain behaviors in the future.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
