Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Whatnow, the Art of Seduction reeks of OW for me too...It has been so hard to get through because I see her manipulation on every page!

Ways to seduce: be their friend (CHECK), get their sympathy (CHECK), drop sexual hints (CHECK), mirror their tastes and interests (CHECK), raise their curiosity and then ignore them (CHECK), make them open up to you and convince them they are sad and unhappy (CHECK), be their sexual fantasy woman (CHECK)show you have opposite sex characteristics (CHECK)...there are more.
I think she did practically every technique except stay on the periphery and befriend his friends. Nope she moved right on in. AN EXPERT MANIPULATOR!

So now I need to be able to shake her image from my head when I read it and try to think of what I did to seduce WH and see if I want to employ any of those techniques now.

I do see the 180 being a seductive technique because as everyone knows, when you are not around anymore, the other person misses you. When you are quiet and "mysterious" it is alluring because it raises the other person's curiosity, and the AoS even said that sometimes being cruel can cause the "victim" of your seduction to be interested in you.

It has confirmed some common sense things we know like being too eager or coming on too strong makes you look insecure, but there were some other techniques that surprised me. Depending on your victim, you might want to "need their help" or "get their sympathy" It didn't say "If you are someone whose spouse left you due to an affair with another person, these are ways to get your spouse back." Nope. So I haven't gotten to the meat of the plan or "how to" yet.

Today when WH comes over I will leave and take my book with me to a coffee shop to study more.