K - I've been reading along but I, like Jeff, find that I really have no helpful words of advice since I haven't been down the road you are traveling.

I can say that your C sounds like she has some good insight and may be able to ease you two into some sort of better path toward R.

You are always in my heart and mind and I pray for you and H daily, as I do all of my friends here. I will add to them that your H's heart and mind are opened up to be vulnerable to you and not afraid of your reactions. I wonder where that fear comes from? What does he think you're going to do? Kill him? If you haven't done that by now, you're not going to. smile

Ok, a little levity there at the end of a most serious post was needed. You know me......seriousness is highly overrated!

Off to church now. Have a blessed rest of your day!


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!