The situation is not so simple. The place where we are currently living may be rented soon, and when I told her there would be a place for me at the new place (smaller), she said no way. That's not what she wants.
I can't not move out of the home when we're soon to not have a home. I can't afford to stay here myself and tell her to go get her own place. I'm basically being kicked out, told to go and stay at my Dad's. It doesn't seem like she has standing to just take the kids and send me on my way.
If you both are moving to a smaller new place and you are paying for it as well, she cannot push you out. Your name would be on the lease, correct? Too bad if that is not what she wants, you are paying for it. She can't take your children and leave you without some sort of court order.
She doesn't have standing to take your kids away. She will need something from the court on that. Contact a lawyer for some free initial consulting on this. Sounds like you may need to protect yourself.
I'm basically being kicked out, told to go and stay at my Dad's.
She's treating you like a child. She doesn't respect you. Act like a man and the dynamic changes.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
No. My name won't be on the new lease. She's been shopping and picking out a place for her. She's still willing to go to counseling. Our first appointment with the professional counselor is Monday. I won't be leaving the house until it's rented and we're out of the lease and she's boxed everything up and moved. If she won't let me put my boxes at the place where she and my children are moving, then she is the one who is guilty of abandonment.
You need to change you name. You are not being a Christian husband. Perhaps you have the wrong concept of what one is.
Let me put it to you like this......you are not being a man. She is being the man b/c youaren't being one and you are allowingher to be the head of the home. No wonder she doesn't respect you! Have some backbone!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
W and I were texting about our pending separation and in one text she said she was sorry she was hurting me. I replied back letting her know I'm covered and for her to focus on herself and her relationship with Jesus Christ and not to worry about me for now. Her reply back was "okay ... who are you? You're different." Should I take this as a baby step good sign that she's noticing my self sufficient?
Her reply back was "okay ... who are you? You're different." Should I take this as a baby step good sign that she's noticing my self sufficient?
CH...that does sound encouraging. I wouldn't really respond directly to that message...but on your end at least allow yourself to smile about that response...and obviously keep doing what you're doing.
