Change takes time. Real change is worked for and earned and it's the only thing that lasts. You have to set aside whether or not your spouse will eventually return and just do it for you regardless. It has to be about you..... because you want it for you. Regardless of the outcome here you can't lose. It's an added bonus when others (w included) start to notice.
Be patient AYK, you can't put anything in to practice for a short amount of time and just expect her or the dynamic of your relationship to all of a sudden change too. It takes time.
Life has a way of testing us until these changes stick and the only way they will stick is when you do it for you and only you.
