I was watching a silly movie, "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past," and the giggolo uncle tells the main character "the person who cares less is the one with the control of the relationship." So you are on your way to control.
I don't want control - I just want peace and space to heal and get my head sorted. But I know what you mean.
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It ain't over til it's over, P!
It isn't newmama, you're right as usual! I don't know. I just know I need to run away to be honest - I need to get away from here and simply start again. If she chooses to follow, that is her choice. As I've said many times, she would have too much work to do to reconcile that it wouldn't be worth her time.
D's mum keeps saying to me I analyse too much. She's right. I do. However I'm confused about the situation - thinks don't add up which makes the analysing just worse I don't see any evidence of FOG, but everybody assures me it's there. I don't know what to make of her Facebook statement about being in the process of divorce - it worried and fascinated me all at the same time. Who is it meant for? As I said unless she has something up her sleeve the START of a divorce is August 2011 as I will not give her one before then. Maybe being on Match.com is considered 'unreasonable behaviour' which is grounds for an immediate divorce (the other being adultery).
Anyway, I'm simply repeating myself. My new motto here is - it is what it is.
I give up.
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Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
I don't see any evidence of FOG, but everybody assures me it's there. I don't know what to make of her Facebook statement about being in the process of divorce - it worried and fascinated me all at the same time. Who is it meant for? As I said unless she has something up her sleeve the START of a divorce is August 2011 as I will not give her one before then. Maybe being on Match.com is considered 'unreasonable behaviour' which is grounds for an immediate divorce (the other being adultery).