My Story...possible "grass is greener" scenario?

[sandi2]

There has been some things I have wanted to say, so I guess now is the time. First of all, yes there can be several more surprises, so brace yourself. I believe she was in an EA before November ever rolled around. I suspect she is in a PA by now.

You have not detached….period….and never was. You don’t seem to understand that detached means no contact unless it is extremely important regarding the child….but you “use” the excuse of your child to contact SO…and don’t deny it.

The excuse you gave for not ever M this woman was pretty lame IMO. If she was good enough to be with her for 7 ½ yrs, and she was good enough to be engaged to, and she was good enough to HAVE YOUR BABY, then I tend to think you could have managed the couple of things you gave as excuses for not M her. I personally think it is inexcusable, but if she was crazy enough to keep giving you milk, then why should you buy the cow, right? OTOH, it tells me that you are lacking in areas of honor as a man and as a father.

Any man who would live with the mother of his child and not think she was good enough to marry her after three years does not deserve her hand in M. You not only ignored her emotional needs and gave all your attention to the child, but gave any left over time to the computer. You said that you lacked in the romance department and I am wondering if you didn’t have a some porn going on during all that computer time. I am also wondering if you didn't have too high of a standard for her to reach...based on the information you gave in your first post. Of course, you called it by another name, but I'm wondering if she didn't give up and go looking for a man who would appreciate her and give her a little ego food. You admitted that you hardly ever went out the past three years, so I’m thinking why in the h3ll would she want to stay in a R with you???

While I’m on this subject, I might as well throw in another thing I’ve wanted to say. Do you want this precious little girl that you adore grow up and M a man who will use her like a concubine but won’t honor her like a wife? Just wondered, b/c that is exactly what you are teaching her by the role model you are setting.

There is no need in me going into all the detaching and 180’s and GAL b/c the guys have laid it out pretty good. You are not listening. You’re still wondering what to do for Valentine’s Day!

Read this very slowly and apply this every day……..don’t do anything. No letters, notes, emails, FB,IM,TM,VM,calls, replies, responses, pleas, promises, bargaining, threatening...just do nothing. That should keep it simple.