The rewriting of your marital history is very much script. My H also said we hadn't been good together for years and we should never have gotten married. During his EA when we were having problems he told me I had psychological problems and then went on to tell me after the PA ended that I was a saint for accepting what he had done. It's very common for them to rewrite history.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
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