I think I will start with the LRT with GAL, which is more or less what I've been doing already, only I havent been so successful at detaching, so I'm going to try and work on that. Also up til today I didnt know if there was an A/OP or not. Now that I know, it is not something I have to waste time wondering about anymore, so it may make the LRT easier to stick to.
If in a few weeks (or months, depending on my patience and self control) she is still involved with the OP, or if I should find out at any time that it's a PA, I plan to do the ALRT and cut her off.
What I'm thinking is, if she does indeed try and do things with me from time to time and it wasnt just talk to make me less unhappy, and our times are enjoyable, taking those times away from her via ALRT may make ALRT even more successful should the need for it arise.
I'm currently reading Chapman's 5 love languages...and finding out about the A with the OP today drained my love tank immensely...but theres still a little left in it. I hope its enough to get me through the LRT.
As for Valentines day...from reading Chapman's 5LL I dont believe she speaks the gifts language anyway as much as the quality time. So sending her flowers or cards wouldnt mean as much anyway. Something like lunch would be more meaningful...but probably not even that in our current state, and that would be pursuing anyway.
