Those really are starting to not bother/worry me as much anymore.
Good.
Originally Posted By: ytjuy
I am worried (and I know that I should not be) about the fact that she has told a few people that were mutual friends this last week or two and of course told them her version of the marital breakdown and they are supportive of her it seemsAssumption. Again, I know that this should not concern me at all but it is only natural to not want people that you care/cared about to think that you are the problem or this horrible broken person....
Perfectly natural. All decent people hold their character, reputation, good name in high regard. We should; we daily work hard on them. This should hurt, initially. But what true friend passes judgement after hearing only one side of a matter?
So, I would suggest since you have no control over this, a) Don't Make Assumptions*, b) Don't Take It Personally* and rob it of any power over you, because c) The truth always comes out eventually.
Keep going.
*two of The Four Agreements.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
