It's been very difficult to Piece without transparency (as you very well know). I don't think trust can ever be restored and that's why I've been stuck for such a long time. I have tried to give him the benefit of the doubt but every time I do check, I find concrete "evidence" (unsent??? letters, poetry to her) that she is still very much on his mind - there have been a few instances. It makes me wonder if he will ever be over her and I wonder what would happen, if she ever wanted to continue the R. H admitted to me (after I calmly confronted him) that he hates himself for what he's done and continues to do, yet he keeps making excuses for not seeking IC.
Resentment??? Yes H can sense my resentment and this doesn't help our sitch. I'm the one that's always had the stable job and most of what we have, has come from my income. Although H is an EXTREMELY driven person and a workaholic, he's made some very poor choices and blames everyone else for his lack of success. Until he can work through his issues, he'll never be successful because he'll always be moving from one job to the next in search of happiness. H told me today he'll go for IC in mid Feb because he's very busy until then. I guess this shows where his priorities lie.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
