Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[MHL]

I definitely have been vacilating on the tough love thing (I need to order the book) and be her friend. You know I let her know I disapprove of her having relationships with men but I don't know what she is doing so what do I do? I certainly don't want to ask her and now I don't care really. So do I go back to being her friend or be friendly, whatever it is, I just don't know but I am tired of my life being "on hold".

I think when your W has a change of heart, you will know it. Do you think your tough love appraoch is having some type of effect on your W, good or bad?

I think the cold, cold shoulder last night prompted a response but if I continue would it get the results I want??? The loving like glances this morning and the hug may have been nothing but I will make a note and watch but I am determined not to initiate contact at all. This morning just happened IMO.

Well, I certainly cannot give you any flack for brunch. I have done this same type of thing on ocassion, and have even used the same logic that you did. This is a tough transition on everyone and going cold turkey is not a practical expectation.

Thanks for the support, I somewhat feel like it was a backslide but who knows for sure?? I keep going to the success stories and the men who remained friendly got the results, but I also think they did a good job of GAL.