OldPilot,
That is one reason I want to find if there is OW or not. If it's a MLC/depression, like I first thought then I think I need to treat it differently.

I'm thinking that knowing what your dealing with, either OW or MLC would change the way you react or treat them.

I'm thinking that if it's OW, going dark and really moving on is the best

If its MLC, I think being more friendly and understanding is the move.

I just don't know what to do.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10