need help fast

[newmama]

So what happened? Did you mean that you saw H and OW coming back to your house last night?

Look one of the reasons why I have "stayed so patient" is also because WH is not rubbing the A in my face! If he ever starts to do that you all will be seeing/hearing a different side to me! I DO NOT TOLERATE BULLYING (cake eating I guess, LOL! poking fun at myself) So it INFURIATES me when I hear others' WS doing this to them!

Now I always think "legal" (even though I am not a lawyer)when it comes to the house. Do youknow if legally he can have access to your house? Do you know if there is something in the law where you live that says if the spouse walks away from the house, you get to be the primary owner? Is changing the locks legal?

I ask all of this because I want you to be able to tell him when he can come to the house, if at all.
Man, ideally you could take all of his crap and put it in the garage or the front lawn, etc OR A STORAGE FACILITY that you rent for just the first month and let him know his things are there. Now the cons to packing up his crap is that YOU will have to do the physical labor. The pros are that you take control and remove a reason for him to come to the house (except to pick up your kids but you can also arrange for him to do that in a separate location)

Ok the other thing you can do if the above is too much is that if you see him coming over, LEAVE. This is not ideal but at the same time it will spare you the pain of having to see that woman.