(((di))) I am sorry that your H has requested that you get a lawyer. I know how much that has to hurt. Your H is still running from his pain and it is just unfortuante that he is confused about the source of that pain. As much as you hate to, do as he requests and get an attorney. I know it isn't what you want and it is a such a waste however, it may be what your H needs to see that it isn't your M that is causing his pain.
I agree, let your H do all the work for the D. You just need to protect yourself.
Get some referals and interview several attorneys. Find one that you feel comfortable with. I know there aren't very many decent family law attorneys out there...after all, what kind of a person could feel good about doing that job!
