H is apartment hunting today

[trytryagain]

he started seeing a counselor in september 2008 (the one who diagnosed him), and saw him for several months on his own before he and i began seeing him together. he is unhappy because i want to change him, because he can't make me happy, because i need more love than he can give me, because he feels like it shouldn't be "this hard" to be married, because he feels chipped away at. i know i can't cure him or force him to see that things can be so much better, but he really is in emotional lockdown right now and aside from crying about the "loss" of our marriage, it's kind of like talking to a brick wall.