Thank you everyone for the advice.

I still snoop, but I do it less and less. The only thing I can look at now (he changed all his passwords) is our cell phone records. This shows who he calls and who calls him. The last week he has had a lot of incoming calls from a 999999999 number. This is what shows up when the person calls you using the *67 to make it a blocked number. So he defiently doesn't want me to know who is calling him.

Plus he is living with his mom right now, and from what she tells me, he stays out late every night. And on the weekends he doesn't have the kids, he tells her he is staying at a friends house. Well he is not staying at any of his friends that I know.

I have asked him if there is OW before and he denies, and then trys to say he suspects that I have a boyfriend. Espically when I'm acting as if I'm GAL. He just looks like a very guilty man. Plus he is pushing hard for us to end. That makes me suspect that if there is OW, she is pushing him with that.


Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10