It's the end of the world as we know it, & I feel-

[flowmom]

The only thing your counselor said that I would rethink is the part about arranging a 3rd party for pick-up/drop-off of the kids. I think it's very important for the kids to see you two working together on this.

I agree. Have you read Hold On To Your Kids? More than ever you need to make sure that your children are with adults with whom they have a healthy attachment. Transitions are a time to pay attention to, and you're looking for a situation where parents are "passing the attachment baton". Your children need to see their caregivers interact in a positive way otherwise you risk them falling into an "attachment void", an all too common consequence of divorce.