Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[flowmom]

I have come to realize that I won't ever go down the "apathy road" again in either my marriage or relationships with others....it's too scary at the end!!

Yes, I guess that's my major regret from my M. Not being apathetic, but not pushing hard enough to address the issues when they started to become chronic. I think that what stopped me was feeling defensive, because the issues often presented as H criticising and complaining to me (and vice versa). If I had been truly open to hearing what was going on for H, I would have seen that it wasn't about me being right or wrong, it was about relationship. I can't imagine ever choosing to be in a serious love R again, but it makes me realize that all of my Rs deserve more caretaking.