H is apartment hunting today

[trytryagain]

for all of you with spouses who've dropped the bomb...how long do the WAS usually stay in your home before finding a place of their own? my H dropped the bomb on 1/6 and is already apartment hunting this afternoon for his own place.

i am doing my best...went out with friends last night and had fun but most of the time felt like my smile was glued on and if i let it slide off, someone would see how truly miserable i was. h slept on the couch last night. came home drunk the night before and fell asleep in the bed with me (but apologized profusely the next day). i can't read his signals. he is apartment hunting but he looks at me with tears in his eyes. he doesn't want to work on our marriage but he goes out of his way to ask if i need anything from him.

i wished him luck with apartment hunting when he went out this morning and mentioned looking for a place of my own...neither of us have any ill will towards the other, but he's built a wall around his heart that i can't get over to make him see what a terrible choice it is to end this.