Hey K, I was checking back last night to see how you got on. Wow. Amazing, the nerd in me finds it interesting he finally DID talk the day Mercury (his ruling planet, as he is a Gemini) goes properly forwards, on 22nd. Sounds like he told you things that perhaps he hadnt really voiced before? Is this right? You were unaware he was so affected by your anger and grief and literally has to stay out of your way because of it? Whilst your anger and grief are understandable, I suppose there comes a point where it is counterproductive (or counterintuitive as Michelle from DB likes to put it) - because it is putting distance between you and preventing him from being intimate with you, or getting close to you I guess?

Great that he embraced it, talked, that it last 2 1/2 hours and the MC was supportive of your R!

But shame he is unable to reach in and touch you anyway, connect with you despite his fears over your anger/grief. I said the other night didnt I, its like you two are in separate rooms, metaphorically.

So this issue in 2005.. was that the root of something for him? Did he kind of withdraw after that? Perhaps he felt you stating you wanted a break from your life was a kind of rejection of him?? I dont know but yes, what a shame he never expressed this before, or better still, at the time!

I think your H doesnt say much so we have to take what we get at face value.. so when he said: "He even said I am negative and cold and dont leave room for us to make it..." I guess you need to take that on board. Its been hard to keep encouraging you to take the wall down to your H.. I mean after all he did its not surprising you would feel these ways. But if you've decided to reconcile with him, at some point you have to 'give in' the fight and soften, let him back in and let go of these protective mechanisms.

Although it would help of course if he gave up one of those damn jobs!! Was that mentioned at all in MC?

Welll done though!! How are things between you since and today? xx

Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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