Went to a lawyer. It was very helpful, but also made it very real, which I didn't like all that much. He seemed to be a good lawyer, calm, knew what he was talking about, said he'd fight for whatever we need to. All in all a good experience.
One thing he said though, and I'd love any thoughts about it, is that if H is having an affair that I know about and he is not willing to end it, the chances are that he will not end it. Can anyone speak from experience that has gotten to this point, affair was still happening, yet in the end you were able to get back together? Just need a little hope...
