Lolal,
Thank you for the hugs. I don't know what would be worse; not knowing but suspecting or knowing. Either way it's devastating.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10