i can not advise anyone! only share what I have been advised to do. Nor do I believe many attorneys are pro-marriage. I live in a community property, no-fault state which, entitles me to half of the marital assets. The infidelity on H's part adds to my argument for spousal maintenance, as does a marriage longer than 20 years, and my sahm status. So, I have been advised to keep doing what I have always done and to expect the same from H. If he were to stop supporting me, our kids, and home, it would be considered abandonment and he would get screwed. I am taking a chance in waiting, but my marriage is more important to me than my financial security. Of course my kids are older, youngest is in 7th grade.
I will suggest that you get copies of your tax forms, bank statements, etc. Many attorneys offer a free 1 hour consult. Go see 2 or 3. Write your questions down ahead of time and take notes, it can be quite mind-boggling! They will probably advise you to file asap, but ask them what ifs, too.
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