Just want my H back

[flowmom]

the thought of not being with the man i had envisioned one day having children with tears me apart inside.

I totally get that. It's such a hard dream to let go of. But believe me that you want to be with Mr. Right (if there is such a thing) when you have children. The research is very clear that children bring a lot of joy *and* they really, really stress marriages. Your H is doing you a favour if he knows that he can't be a committed husband and father. I know that's easy for me to write. Goodness knows that I am really having trouble accepting the reality of my own sitch and seeing the positive in it.