This, IMHO, is a disaster about to happen. You don't even know for sure if this gentleman is married and you're planning to go on a "fantasy" date at an "intimate" jazz bar with him, alone, and you think there's "no risk of it going anywhere"??????? Because you're "not looking to flirt"?
Just to clarify, I'm assuming that he's married and my intentions are platonic only (as are his I assume). Even if he wasn't married, I wouldn't want anything to happen. I've had no interest in other men in the 17 years that I've been with H (except that I used to get crushes on helicopter pilots while on work assignments, but that was just silliness )
Originally Posted By: Kettricken
GAL doesn't mean finding a fresh source for external validation. It means doing things that allow you to validate yourself as a well-rounded individual in your own right. That may include going out and looking hot, but not exclusively that, for sure.
Again to clarify, I'm not planning to go and "look hot". I want to listen to jazz and I don't want to go by myself. Going out to listen to some jazz is something that I indentified as something I'd like to do to GAL. If I went alone I'd probably just feel sorry for myself. And I don't want to go with someone who feels sorry for me or who is trying to be "supportive".
Reading back on my post I could see how it could be interpreted the way that you did. I think it's partly my being out of practice with even doing normal grownup things that I made it sound more suggestive that it is.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
) 
