P, I think your D should get the gift and card. If you end up divorcing (still too early to tell), will D have a relationship of some kind with W?

Also, you let your MIL give gifts to D. And you said it was good to see that W is fighting for D.
There is no cake eating going on with W...D knows fully what is happening currently, correct? So the consequences of W's affair are not being hidden.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004