Another Sad Deployed Soldier/Dad

[Another_Soldier]

WOW...Well i finally did what i had to do this morning. I called to talk to the kids and my son had let the cat out of the bag about my wife going out to the bar where the OM works again last weekend and it was the last straw. I couldn't hold it in any more and i had to let the W know exactly how i felt.
I think i followed the DB rules though so i hope i did the right thing.
I told W that i can no longer live in a M where there are lies and deceit and would not any longer. I told her that i will not accept her going to the bars on the weekends while i am here and especially not to the bar where the OM works. I told her that i am done with trying to figure out what she wants out of the M and that I will only be concerned for the kids and myself from now on. I told her she needed to figure out what was wrong with her and i would not be strung along. I told her that i would not contact her unless it was to speak to the kids or to talk about the kids. I grabbed those "raisins" out of her purse form 10000 miles away and put thm back where they belong. I stood up for myself and my marriage and set the boundary and gave the consequences of overstepping the boundary and W didn't like it 1 bit. She got pissed and started yelling over the phone told her i would not be yelled at and if she liked i would just hang up. I told her if she overstepped the boundaries i would pack all of her stuff up when i got home and move it into the garage so she could move to wherever as long as she had her head up her 4th point of contact. She stopped yelling and i told her that i would be taking over ALL of the finances and bills and she would have enough money to take care of the kids untill i got back home. Time to put those Big Girl Panties on.

WOW. I feel like i have a ton of bricks off my shoulders and and after i hung up with her i felt instant relief. I know this isn't over by any means and i need to keep DBing and it will be hard but i will just continue to GAL and focus on me and the kids.

Thanks everyone...

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