A cheated cheater

[bluerain]

You know, I think that if you are Ok with the sex then dont worry about it, but if you are crying afterward then maybe you should consider it again. We have a habit of fooling ourselves into thinking that everything is fine, and that if I just do this, or that, everything will be ok. Unfortunately thats not realistic very often.

I dont think that it was a mistake for you to confront him about S4's comment. Maybe you gave too much info, eh, but Ill bet that his thoughts were racing while you were talking and he might not even clearly remember all of it. Personally, I think that maybe he did deserve an egg to the head! Do you think that maybe you could set a boundary about him speaking to her in the house and in front of the kids? I dont think that would be too much for you to ask him to respect your family like that.

Ill have to write more later! If you ever want to talk more privately, hit me up on FB.

And the biggest thing is this: We have all screwed this process up royally, more than once usually, the good thing is that its ok to mess up, you will have another chance tomorrow. Things didnt get as messed up as they are today with one single action, so one single action isnt going to fix it, or doom it. Cut yourself a break and have some hot cocoa!