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[awest1217]

So H text me tonight to say his mom called about doing pizza. She had already called me and I had said yes, but to see what was going on, I asked him what he was going to do. He said he figured I didn't want to see him and then went on to say how he will probably just stay home and make a pizza...waiting for me to beg him to come. I just said ok that is up to you and left it. Then later I text him and said I was sorry he did not come, but I needed to still meet with him by the end of the month. He asked if I was still at his parents and I was and if everything was ok. I said I already told him what was up. About 5 minutes later, he asks if I want him to come home. I said yes, but we need to talk about a lot of stuff first. He has the nerve to say what. So I let him know OW, and how I have been treated the last few years because I am not going to be treated that way ever again. He then apologized for putting the girls first because I should be his best friend and said he was sorry for being indecisive then blaming me for "bossing him around" when he wouldn't decide anyway. He kept saying he is lonely and misses me (still nothing about S which is kind of good because I think for once he really does miss me). He said he missed his friend and didn't realize until these last few weeks how important I was to him and how much we did talk.

I let it at saying thank you for the apology. I have never minded him having friends, but the fact that they became more and were always ahead of me was not ok. I have always valued his opinion, but he would never give it.

After that I have once again gotten nothing. I am not ready for him to come home without a face-to-face because he has had 3 strikes and I don't want him to come home without making sure there are true changes. Even if that means him paying rent for a while, his fault for waiting this long to make a decision. I do want my marriage to work, but I don't want to be naive and a door mat. It could be an interesting weekend. We will see...