Hi Kara, Stopping in as I just read your last several posts & had to let you know they made me smile, very widely!! What a great boost to my day! Thanks for your creative posts, and sharing what has to be some of the best advice I've seen here or elsewhere. Bravo! Continued fabulousness to you! And thank you for the inspiration! I'll definitely stop in again. Have a GREAT weekend!
Hiya RW, MB28, PH, Mind, LFA, Serenity, Mnt. Thanks for dropping by and posting. It is always nice to check in and see that friends have visited.
There is not much to update but since you asked, here goes...
Another week had passed at the Double K ranch. A sense of calm and quiet had descended upon the property. Kara's mantra was no more drama. She had lived in the Drama Motel for a year and she had no desire to check back in. It was a dump. Did this mean that she condoned or encouraged Mr. Kara's behavior? Certainly not. But she had accepted that she had no control over another human being and that it was up to Mr. Kara to find his way. Or not. She left the path as well lit and as well paved as she could.
And what of Mr. Kara? Well,during his absence Kara had employed a few ranch hands to so some outdoors work which she could not and would not do herself. On his return Mr Kara seemed to be galvanized into action. Cleaning here. Trimming there. Why, he even cleaned up the dishes before Kara could get to them.
He still exhibited some classic walk away spousey behavior. He maintained his air of mystery. He was a man of intrigue, after all. But it did occur to Kara that he was at home more often than not. And far earlier than usual. In one conversation he did make a reference to his holiday and what he had done. He then gazed expectantly at Kara who responded cheerfully "Well, that sounds nice." Kara was left with the distinct impression that he expected her to ask where he had been. But she could be wrong. After all, that was mind reading and she no longer engaged in that.
And what of Kara herself? Well, time waited on no man. Or woman. She busied herelf with her work and with the work. She continued with her IC sessions. She saw where she and Mr. Kara had gone wrong. She saw where they had gone right. This realization would stand her in good stead in the future as she was now coming to appreciate what marriage and relationships were truly about. Being human, Kara still had moments where she though why the hell am I in this situation? Why me? But then she thought. Why not me? What makes me special? Looking on the positive side, at least she had moments and not hours or days!
It was not all work and no play. Kara found a little time to squeeze in a massage at the weekend. She drifted away on the massage table surrounded by the soothing scented candles and relaxing music, cocooned in a little oasis of pampering. Could she take the entire spa back to the ranch? Could it fit into her purse?
As Kara left the ranch that evening to go to dinner, she passed Mr. Kara on the stairs. Kara's dress - $$; shoes - $$; glowing, nicely scented massaged skin - $$; expression on Mr. Kara's face? Priceless.
WHAHOOOOOO! An update!!! What was for dinner? Who did you go with? A dress, huh? Not sure where you are, but you'd need 12 in thick tights w/a dress, here!!! Actually, some nice tall boots would do.... Maybe I'll pull that off on Wed for a nice dinner w/THE MOMs!
OK, so now I need to re-read... what's the story w/Mr. Kara? He's allowed to vaca and come and go as he pleases? Kara's WAY TOO COOL FOR SCHOOL to allow that!!! Even Mr. MINDFULL, who is really livin' large in the cake eating department would get his nuts grabbed for that!
I love your updates. You should really charge admission!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Things had reached an emotionally charged point at the Double K before his vacay and truthfully if he hadn't left , I would have. His leaving was a good thing. I do more or less know where he was as he gave enough info without coming right out and saying it. He did check in while he was away.
Nuts grabbing? Nooooo. I've done the nuts grabbing and all the other things. That is soooo 2009.
Mind, how much would you pay for admission? Just asking!!!
Kara found a little time to squeeze in a massage at the weekend. She drifted away on the massage table surrounded by the soothing scented candles and relaxing music, cocooned in a little oasis of pampering. Could she take the entire spa back to the ranch? Could it fit into her purse?
As Kara left the ranch that evening to go to dinner, she passed Mr. Kara on the stairs. Kara's dress - $$; shoes - $$; glowing, nicely scented massaged skin - $$; expression on Mr. Kara's face? Priceless.
LOVE it!!! Pure inspiration. That reminds me, I have a spa certificate from my sisters for my birthday. Time to use it!
Thanks for stopping by my thread Kara. I welcome your thoughts anytime. Have a continued FABULOUS week!!! LFA
