Ring On or Ring Off????

[kjensen]

Hi TCBTE,
I too, do not want to be divorced, yet that is what is happening in my situation...so as J3B says..I lawyered up. I met with two local lawyers and hated one and liked the other. So far, so good.

I would ask any friends, or friends of friends you know that have been divorced where you live, if they have any recommendations or lawyers they wouldn't use! Your C's list is a great place to start. I would visit a few before deciding.

My H always said he didn't want our stuff..he didn't want to be supported by me financially..and here we are in the beginning of the divorce process and his lawyer has made it clear that is exactly what my H wants...

So. Get the best lawyer who fits with your ideals, who has no 'dings' against him or her on the state bar association(usually you can find it on-line), who has a good reputation...

You can ask if the lawyer has a lot of court experience..if most of their divorce cases are settled out of court...whatever questions you have..what your chances are for custody, alimony...whatever you want to know...

You don't have to file first. But knowing who you might want to represent you, should you need to respond to a divorce petition, might alleviate the stress and let you know where you stand..

Hang in there. Its just no fun, no way about it! But you can get through this with flying colors!