Not sure if this qualifies as piecing or not...

[smith18]

I understand. And one step for her to regain the affection towards you is that others you both know not talk about or know of the journey you both are going through of piecing. I suppose it is analogous of having too many hands in the kitchen.

It will just take time and patience for her to regain some feelings of privacy in your relationship together. The written apology letter is a good start.

[TrentC]

She was asked to think about and consider setting some boundaries, probably in order to start rebuilding trust.

She hasn't said anything yet; maybe she's waiting until our next session? For my part, I've pulled back a little bit; I know she's noticed.

Also, I've talked to all of the people in my circle and informed them of my decision to stop discussing our relationship and our journey with them. They all get it, and a couple of them have promised to help keep me accountable.

I just looked at my cell phone history; the only person I've called in the past two days is an old college friend that I recently reconnected with.

[goldeylox]

Trent, sandi2 is looking for you. Her thread just locked.
I'm going to be dark for a few days while I rest and prepare for my big move. I need a little help the weekend of 1/29 and 1/30. I'll send you or Kerry K an email in a couple of days.
Sundays are reserved for God and visits w/ S16.
Peace. Goldey
p.s. Sorry for the hi-jack. Hope your boundary setting is working out for you. I found last year that while our long-time Church friends meant well, they were not equipped to facilitate healing or recovery. Some were even nosey and destructive. When they asked, I said, "Please pray for our family. It's private, I don't want to talk about it right now." Eventually they got bored and moved on.

[TrentC]

I saw that her thread was locked and that she was looking for me, but I don't know what for.

[TrentC]

Second MC appointment was last night.

We discussed what has changed since last week -- which was not much -- and went into our family backgrounds a little bit.

She seemed to respond to the MC and engaged with him. I kept my fool mouth shut except when I was asked questions, so I wouldn't come across as trying to drive the conversation. (I can't fix it, I have to let the MC do his job.)

[TrentC]

Some minor journaling.

I'm kinda in a funk; I didn't get enough sleep last night -- I've been doing a lot better, but some nights I just "pop" and can't sleep more than 4 or 5 hours -- and I was so tired that I considered staying home. And it's been affecting my mood today.

But I had some customer commitments that I needed to uphold, so I came in. I figured that I've gone through work bone-tired before, I can do it again. Besides, it's Friday.

Well, that was apparently a bad idea; my supervisor caught my sleeping at my desk. (I didn't intentionally take a nap, I just nodded off.)

So I got reprimanded, but he was really fair about it. The last time I had this problem (not long after the bomb was dropped) he told me he was going to have to send me home. He didn't, but he gave me the option to do so if I thought i wouldn't make it through the day. I thought I was going to after lunch, but I seem to have gotten my second wind.

But I'm probably going to start looking for a new job. This three-hour commute was difficult enough when things were better. I can't imagine being out-of-work piled on top of the current stress at home will help matters any.

I'm trying to decide if I want to mention any of this to my wife right now. I might tell her that I'm heading to bed early because I didn't sleep well, but that is it.

What sucks is, she's having a horrible time at work right now, too. And I remember how good it felt -- for both of us -- to just be able to curl up on the couch and comfort each other.

[smith18]

Have you considered getting a sleeping pill prescription from a doctor?

There is nothing wrong with looking around for a new job closer to home. 99W and Tualatin-Sherwood Hwy stink! I am lucky that I live, work, shop, and the kids go to school in Tigard - 5 minute commute by side streets. The only time I have to go into "Moscow on the Willamete" is on Sundays for my sons Chinese class at PSU.

Are there many openings for your line of work?

[TrentC]

I have considered it; I've been taking Tylenol PM from time to time, but I ran out a couple of weeks ago.

As for openings? Not a lot. I have two friends in the same line of work, and they've been looking for work since this summer.

I can certainly keep my eyes open, and send out a resume or two...

[smith18]

You could always exercise more so as to sleep better.

Here is a post from Jack_Three_Beans about getting sleep...

Sleep = Nyquil

Don't recommend getting hooked on it though.
At the beggining if I found I couldn't sleep I would take a gulp of Nyquil.

Its self medication, not many are going to recommend it, but if you absolutely need the sleep.

After a time you won't need it.

[TrentC]

You could always exercise more so as to sleep better.

This is true; I skipped walking the dog last night, that could have had something to do with it.