This stuff just consistently leaves me speechless. I can't even think of how to respond to offer you encouragement except to shake my head, and that doesn't help you much.
It certainly does seem as though she's ramping up as the conclusion to this tragedy unfolds. Shame on her lawyer for allowing her to continue along this aggressive, attacking path. It's those kinds of lawyers that give others the bad name I guess.
I'm happy for only one thing here Frank. At least her actions over this past year have revealed her inner self in a way you might only have seen over an even slower years and years of marriage. Plus, it seems to me that by choosing this path of hatefulness, she has made it that much easier for you to put to rest inside of you the relationship. As you have already said, why would you ever want such a person back in your life?
I'm not sure what the deal is with the legal system in New York when it comes to dads. I should say that I have done a bit of internet searching from time to time after reading your thread. There are father's advocacy groups in New York, and some of them are working diligently to change a system that has unfairly penalized fatherhood as compared to motherhood. I hope your lawyer is aware of them and has at least considered making use of them.
There is also an expert in marital law in New York who specializes in countering psychological determinations related to custody. If there is any chance that the final custody determination will be made based upon any expert profile done by LG or associated psych personnel, I would look this guy up. Don't recall the name right now, but his resume was very impressive.
As with the others, my prayer is for a quick as possible conclusion for you. The relief you will feel from having her out of your life on the day to day basis will be amazing Frank.
Remember this one?
Strength and honor,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
