Ring On or Ring Off????

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This isn't the first time he's asked for D. Just the first time he's told me to go get a lawyer. I think I've delayed it all I can delay. In October I made him "talk" to me. I talked. He stared at me with his dead eyes as usual. I told him to tell me what he wanted me to do. He referred to that conversation in the email he sent last night. He said what he wants me to do is to get a lawyer. I've talked to the one on the list that my C gave me. She seemed very knowledgable. She suggested collaborative law rather than mediation. In his email last night H said he didn't think we needed a mediator----just have my lawyer be in charge and he'll sign it if he agrees.

I was turned off by the lawyer I talked to when she asked if I lived in the "marital home." She was all business-----and I guess that's what I need, but I know I won't handle this well. I am not handling this well, and need someone that will hold my hand.