Wife lost her love for me - my story

[MHL]

Hey Tom,
Welcome to the forum, I think you will find great support here and you are already getting great advice from Sandi and others.

I have to say - if I didn't know better - I would think I woke up in the "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" and they've already got her, because she is not the person I knew all these years. I guess thats par for the course in this.......

I have read so much as to what and why my W is doing what she is doing, I hesitate to label her but I find that understanding what is going on helps me have patience to do the tough things that work. I found this resource on the stages of MLCer's and while I don't know if that is what your W is going through, some the explainations help and give me a glimpse into what might be next with my W so I am prepared.

Here is the link
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1539436

If you click on the 6 stages link it drops you at the end of the thread. Just go to page one and you will find the the list of the stages by Hearts Blessing.

I found this particularly helpful in understanding what is going on with my W and I actually have compassion or pity for her. I would caution you not to try to "fix" your W or tell her what is going on with her. Just take the knowledge FWIW. What is more important is to focus on you not her. It will be hard b/c it is going to take a long time and the things she is going to do and say are going to get worse before they get better based on my experience. Come here to vent and get support, you are in a good place on these boards.