Well I'm here to echo what the others are saying - what you are struggling with is normal! My H doesn't have an OW but has other problems (verbally abusive at times) and I still feel the same way! Like I need him to validate how painful this is for me. LR too didn't have a OW in the picture and I think she'd agree to feeling overwhelmed with H not showing enough remorse for the pain he's caused.
We will all still work through it. IMO you are the strong one for fighting for your marriage.
Here's something that has helped me keep my emotions in check and guide me through communication in MC (I'm not good at this - still lots to learn!!!!)
