How do I wait?

[DownNotOut...yet]

I am going to throw some fuel on the fire...You DON'T wait!!!

Having been around here a pretty long time, my take on this is she is seeing someone else, this "time apart" from you is so she can pursue another relationship...and if that fails, then she will come back to you. You are being USED as the fall back plan.

I know it is fashionable around here these days to say it but my advice is get strong, get a life. You need to assume it is over and start operating with the idea she will not come back. I am sure at this moment it is impossible to fathom but you will NOT have a chance in the world if getting her back while she feels she has you waiting on the shelf as a backup plan.

You need to write back to her, I understand how you feel. I agree. Do what you need to do. I am going to do what I need to do. Maybe, I will be around when you get your head straight...maybe not.

It is only when they realize they might lose you that they come around. Does it always work, no BUT...read the threads here. The only ones that were really successful were the ones who worked on their shortcomings AND got strong enough to walk away themselves. Totally counter intuitive but true.

Please give us some more info on your situation. I see you wrote your "partner"...married? Not married? Kids? No Kids? M/F? F/F?. I only ask because the dynamics can be slightly different. The more info you can give us, the better info we can give you.