Thanks for the response. We had been going to MC since the start of this. I have continued to go to this C for IC My W refused to work on our M, from the start, so yes you missed that part or maybe it was before I was on this board. I only refused because I did not see the point of continuing to have my Divorce validated in marriage counseling. The counselor agreed with this. We have tried to get her to admit that she is depressed but that has not worked. It all comes back to $$$ and my failure in this portion of our relationship. I will take ownership of that failure. But that is it. I can not take responsibility for her depression or her actions.
Yes I am at a loss of how to proceed, maybe piercing but both of us have to want it. I do, but she wants it only under the terms as stated in the letter(maybe, possiblly, who knows) she has changed her list as we have gone along and nothing I do seems to make a difference. I asked her one time if I hit the lottery if that would help. She said no it wouldn't matter.
I thought for a while that this wasn't a MLC but as we have gone through it, more and more it seems like that is the best explanation.
If I thought that go to MC would help I would jump at the chance. The C asked her to come back for IC and she refused because this C who she picked out is not on "her side". So now she is going to a C in Florida(by phone) and we live in NY.
