loving distance

[courageous wife]

Well, after a couple of hours and calming myself down, I called H and asked him if he'd been to the house to get some things. He said yes, I saw you and I asked who was with him and he said "who do you think?". I asked him why he would bring her to our house...no answer. I told him I was uncomfortable with her knowing where we live and he said that we shouldn't have to worry about that (in other words, she is harmless...ha) and then I said again that I was uncomfortable and he started acting defensive and said that they didn't go IN the house, just the garage so I then said "I am not chewing you out, I am telling you how this makes me feel" "I am not comfortable with her being there and it is very disrespectful of you to bring her there" I then asked if he was prepared to run into a neighbor if one would happen by? Again, no answer. He said he understood and would not do it again. I then told him that he did not have to "sneak" home to get his stuff and he said that he tried to call but no answer. Told him that he can leave a message.

Since he was on the phone, I asked him if he had plans to see the kids this weekend to which he said he would and asked "why, is something going on" so I told him that they were babysitting Sat. night for SS and Dil. Told him we needed to talk about a schedule for him to see them that this last minute stuff was not working. He mentioned coming by Sunday.

Was very tempted to call the L that I had a consultation with but decided to think it over this weekend before I did that. I am also thinking that I may have my brother change the locks on the doors in the house...any advice there?

My co-worker that had an A and is now divorcing told me that she thinks he is being compliant so that I won't get mad and talk to a L so that he can get everything that he can as that is what she did to her H.

At this point, I still want this marraige to work but am not sure where to go from here....