Moving back in

[C-Bart]

Well done!

How are you doing?

[DDogs]

C-BART:
Thanks for asking, but I feel like crap.. I ask my self how can I have let this happen to my kids....I'm tense, shaky and had to leave the house, so I took my D11 out for fresh cookies... I can' f'n believe W treated this so coldly and clinically... like she had no emotions whatso ever... W retreated to the guest room and not one word spoken to me,, (i figured that) but it's done.. the kids know basically whats happening... I am so sad its come to this but I am just as p!ssed off at W.. She will not see me like that, tho... I am maintaining cool, calm and controlled...

[Dane]

DDogs,
I feel you man. I just went through the same thing with my kids. Man was it hard, it still is. I see a couple times when they are mad.

I think they are confused because my STBXW did so much for them, and now she wants the divorce. They are probably mad at me.
You will have waves of emotion for your kids, I know I did. The next day was brutal for me.
Keep positive, keep busy, exercise for stress, get sleep if you can.
Man it sucks, I know.

[DDogs]

Thanks Dane, Appreciate the support.. Im just all about my kids now..

I wish you well likewise in your sitch.. We can stay strong, its hard but not impossible...

[Kimmie Lee]

My heart aches whenever I read another sitch here where a WAS thinks nothing of destroying a family.

It is sickening, and yet, I also read a lot here about how the WAS should not be "thrown under the bus," as in that they are to be protected by the LBS so the kids don't think that good old mom or dad shouldn't be made to "look bad."

Uh....excuse me, but the WAS's jumped under the bus all by themselves. And it is exactly right that kids are not stupid. They have eyes and ears. WAS's are not so clever that they can keep the kids from realizing who is actually ripping the family to shreds.

Why insult your children by lying and covering for the selfish WAS? Oh, mom doesn't want to be seen as an adulterer? Then don't sneak off with an OM. Simple. But good old "mom" will probably blow smoke up the kids' @sses by saying that things are "complicated."

Huh...."complicated"....."Complicated" is just an easy word that a coward would use to describe their disgusting behavior.

[DDogs]

UPDATE:

Interesting behavior last night.. I got home later than usual and W was actually pleasant. She initiated conversation about how was my day; when I was speaking with my Kids, she made a point to add comments in.

While watching TV, W uncharachteristicly, was making funny comments and remarks. I joined in and made similar remarks. After about an hour, W decided to turn in for the night and I was going to do the same. We both passed tru the kitchen and W turned to me, came close to me, gently touched my arm and very pleasantly said good night.

I felt and sensed a bit more closeness and friendliness than has been there in a long time. It really made me think and reminded me about how well we used to get along and also made me sad to think of all thats we've been doing to each other.

I know to not believe what is said and half of what they do.... also bad=good and good=bad... Im just confused, because this is a clear 180 from W behaviors in the past month...

It might sound like I'm making a huge deal over something so trivial, but when in a desert, a drop of water gets your total attention..

I'm going away for the weekend away from the home,,I need to clear my head and take a break from all of this...

So far, no call from my atty, regarding me being served (W states she did so on 12/30..)

Still continue to get positive comments about me getting back in shape again. So much so that I wonder what the Hell I must have looked like last year...! Was told in our gym by a co-worker whom I interact with occasionally, "XXXX Man, whatever your doing, keep it going,,, I remember metting you last year and you are shadow of your former self, you're looking great.." What a great positive reinforcement to start the weekend on..

[Kimmie Lee]

DDogs, continue keeping your distance if you aren't already.

I do not trust this one bit and it makes me think she's trying to soften you up and wants something. These WAS's are nothing more than smiling assasins.

[DDogs]

DDogs, continue keeping your distance if you aren't already.

I do not trust this one bit and it makes me think she's trying to soften you up and wants something. These WAS's are nothing more than smiling assasins.

I have to agree with you KIMMIE L, As much as I want to believe W may be having 2nd thoughts, this just seems too convenient/manipulative.. Thanks for your insight... This just gives me another reason to go away this weekend, become dimmer...

[dburt]

It reminds me off War of the Roses when the Kathleen Turner goes down on Michael Douglas and after about 15 seconds she about bites it off.

It could mean what you are doing is slowly chipping away at her, and it could mean she is setting you up. Just keep doing what you are doing, no more no less.

Hope your weekend was fun

Burt

[DDogs]

UPDATE:

Received an Affidavit of minor child to the preferred parental custodian, papers from my atty.. atty has also rec'd a child support work sheet, BUT NO complaint!, My atty called hers atty back AGAIN for it..

W had my S15, D11, sign affidavit that they wish to live with W and that they (the children) would like to see dad "on weekends or any other time we, S/D, choose"

sounds like text book TV/hollywood divorce story, Mom primary and dad relegated to weekends only... Nope this is not acceptable for me, have calls in to my atty...