Don't take too much time figuring it out. Just do one little thing.
Think of it this way... you are able to be a wife and mom because you *are* a woman.
It doesn't have to be for somebody (your H, another male) but just for you. Something that *you* know that maybe nobody else will ever know but it gives you a sense of being a woman and nothing else.
Nobody is going to knock on your door and offer you a basket of self esteem (wouldn't that be great?!). Many women here can relate to feeling lower than dirt and uglier than sin when going through such an experience. It's a bond we all share.
Don't worry about flirting right now, just do something that will remind you for the rest of the day you are a woman first.
