Telling your W that you won't be emailing her anymore is not a boundary. You simply told her what you were doing and she didn't have anything to do about it. A boundary is what you expect out of her (that affects you) and a consequense to her actions if she doesn't abide by the boundary.
Anyway, all that stuff you told her in your last email was very, very pursuing and I can more readily understand why she wants her father to be present when she talks to you. You are too persistant. You nag and apply pressure in her POV.
Remember that a WAW does not make logical sense, but you continue to keep hanging on to the fact that she didn't discuss her reasons for leaving, and why is she doing all this, etc., etc.
You need to resolve the money issue and get past it. You may not realize it, but you are harping on the same thing and I can only imagine how it comes across to her. Yes, a lot of resentment is showing. If you want her back then you have to be a man of strength and honor. Do the honorable thing with the finances, the furniture, etc. Back away from her and stop pursuing. She can't see any changes if you are continuing to show her the old you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
