my h also can't see us together anymore and wants to separate, while i see the problem as being totally resolvable. i also have realized the things i've done and owned up to my responsibilities in getting us to this place, but when i told him about my "revelation," he, like your h, responded that he didn't want to work on us anymore and that it was too little, too late. i don't think D is the answer...also like you, there has been no infidelity, no abuse, just normal humans making normal mistakes. in any marriage, people will hurt each other, whether intentional or not, and only when you learn to forgive one another and grow stronger and form a deeper bond from these times can you truly experience the joy of marriage. but...there is no telling that to my h.
I'm there too . I wish you the strength to do what you have to do right now. I know how tough it is. The good thing in your case is that if you end up divorcing, you will at least be able to make a fresh start with no children involved. I know that's not much consolation, but believe me I don't look forward to a lifetime of interacting with the person who is responsible for the greatest rejection and hurt of my life. In your case you will be able to reap the benefits of the 180s and GAL no matter what happens. Take care.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. I wish you the strength to do what you have to do right now. I know how tough it is. The good thing in your case is that if you end up divorcing, you will at least be able to make a fresh start with no children involved. I know that's not much consolation, but believe me I don't look forward to a lifetime of interacting with the person who is responsible for the greatest rejection and hurt of my life. In your case you will be able to reap the benefits of the 180s and GAL no matter what happens. Take care.
