Waiting for WAH to decide my fate?

[flowmom]

trytry, it's rough but you can't control your H's decisions, only your own. For what it's worth, I *wish* that H was still living with me and that we had more opportunities for connection. I think that my H has already made his decision...and I wish we were back where you are. Indecision works in your favour because it creates more time for the changes that you are making to shift things in the M.

Whatever person you wish to be within or outside of your marriage, start being that person now through your 180s and GAL. If you wanted to start fresh and meet new people (whether for friendship or more), how you present your best, true, self to them? Start doing that now.

Regarding friends. My friends and family initially encouraged me to accept divorcing, move on with my life, and look forward to not having to deal with H. I don't see that as an option as coparenting will mean always having to deal with my H. Basically I've told friends and family that I want a reconciliation and I'm not ready to accept divorce yet. I basically shut down D talk most of the time, and my closest friends and family are respecting where I'm at and supporting my decision even though they've expressed their concerns. If you wish to keep talking with friends and family, set boundaries with them and clarify how they can support you. They don't have to agree with you, but they can respect your current choices.