So sorry your morning was so icky. That rewriting of history really sucks, but I guess they have to do it to justify or reason how they are feeling.
I don't think by buying him a lamp you are sending a message to the kids about him needing to be fixed because I am sure they can see that themselves. My kids are younger than yours and are very aware that daddy is not himself and there is something very wrong.
As far as D12, she is upset, angry, frustrated and doesn't know how to process it all. It is too bad she doesn't feel like she can tell her dad how she feels.
I am so sorry what should have been a nice start to your day with the honors breakfast turned out to be ick. Hope your day gets better!
